Those who’ve sat via my investigative journalism coaching or magnificence would attest to my theory at the non-public affairs of folks. It is unassuming. If a married public legit has 10 girlfriends or boyfriends, this is none of my venture, except such relationships have an effect on the general public handbag or intervene with the general public officer’s paintings.

Since the Daddy Lumba circle of relatives controversy broke out, I’ve have shyed away from studying any of the tales or the debates. I’ve tuned off in this subject, as I’ve on some circle of relatives feuds prior to now.

The closest I’ve come to growing an pastime within the Lumba circle of relatives feud is that probably the most ladies is named Serwaa, which is essentially the most delightful feminine identify I do know. If you question me who the primary spouse is or who received the court docket case, I can’t inform you.

(And I’ve not anything towards those that apply the tale. Not everybody should be fascinated by Elder Agyepong’s “borla” venture, you barb?)

So, what I’m about to jot down isn’t the substance of the subject, however a demanding observation I’ve noticed some males write concerning the controversy.

It is price noting that if a girl had died and left two males preventing, the narrative would were predictably other from what we’re seeing now. But even past that, some males appear to be defining marriage in slender phrases, from the dominant certain of energy.

I’ve noticed sermons admonishing ladies to take excellent care in their husbands in order that the boys don’t seem to be tempted to head for different ladies. Some have even when put next the function of girls to home staff. And the lady’s fellowship of social media descended on the ones posts with the suitable responses, so I’ve not anything extra so as to add. But the perspectives are numerous.

Clara Kowlaga Kasser-Tee posted a work of recommendation she took from the realized Justice Henrietta Mensah-Bonsu on opting for the daddy of 1’s youngsters moderately. In reaction to that put up, my buddy Atik Mohammed, amongst different issues, wrote:

“…The choice of marriage is precisely the person’s. You may have your splendid guy you need to marry as a girl, if that guy does now not do you the honors, considering of him as a husband is at best possible, a wishful idea.”

Really?

Unlike random Facebookers whose intelligence I can’t vouch for, Atik is a brilliant dude, however I disagree together with his place, which many males appear to endorse.

If you’re a guy who thinks marrying a girl is doing her a favour, then you might be lacking a big level about marriage. You’re getting into right into a union by which each events have an equivalent stake. Being the pinnacle of that union, as males are made to consider, is solely ceremonial.

Wielding a penis does now not make you wiser than your spouse. Why? The penis is brainless.

Any guy who believes that the obligation of his spouse is to stick house and maintain him isn’t have compatibility to be known as a husband. That guy is a kid who will have to return to his folks to be looked after.

A married guy is meant to be an grownup. The poisonous mindset {that a} lady is accountable for caring for her husband is ingrained in our society. That is what informs some TV ads (comparable to the only in a Vodafone advert or so) by which mothers-in-law name their sons’ other halves and instruct them on maintain their husbands.

The international has moved on. One does now not desire a college level to discard the disturbingly archaic concept that marrying a girl method getting a prepare dinner or a laundry hand.

Mr. Man, it’s true that your mom didn’t train you prepare dinner. But it’s also true that your father didn’t take you via “atopa” tutorials. So, when you’ve got realized to have intercourse by yourself, you’ll be able to learn how to prepare dinner.

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